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Welcome to My Pity Party: BYOB (Bring Your Own Breakdown)

Ever Feel like everything that could possibly go wrong simultaneously is? 

It will start off as a broken nail. Okay, annoying, but manageable. Next, the restaurant is out of your favorite drink. All good, probably shouldn’t be drinking anyway. A project you worked on doesn't go to plan, sigh. Then your dryer doesn't turn on. Fine. Your car starts rattling. Cool. Your romantic relationship ends that could have flourished, not okay. To top things off, your period starts. Plah, fantastic. 

Welcome to My Pity Party: BYOB (Bring Your Own Breakdown)

Now we're at the top of a mountain, scorched by global warming screaming, “Fuck My Life” or “Everything is fine!” I may have cried and silently broken down in a Nordstrom Rack checkout line, but, really, it’s fine

It’s not fine.  

Just me? I'm the only one who compounds the suckiness of life like interest on those pesky student loans that they should just cancel already.

Welcome to My Pity Party: BYOB (Bring Your Own Breakdown)

Fine. Well, welcome to this pity party. Because sometimes, that's what it feels like. It feels like I've invited every single inconvenience, every single unfortunate thing that's occurred, and every single thing that didn't go my way to a dusty, crusty, with mismatched streamers banquet hall and told them to grab a seat. 

All these invited guests get to perform karaoke (like in Rush Hour 2) open mic style, laying on their audience (which includes only me) their “woe is me” stories and how the world is stacked against us.

Welcome to My Pity Party: BYOB (Bring Your Own Breakdown)

Just like misery likes company, I've realized that the things going “wrong” in life love to pal around together, too. It's like a secret competition to see which unfortunate event will lead to cracking or how much one can bear.

Tune in next week to find out on our one-woman show “My Life Sucks – True Story.” 

For me, the compound effect comes with many gifts. It helps me consolidate everything that is really going on and stuff into a sad little bucket that I stole from Little House on the Prairie. The poor handle doesn't even work. 

Welcome to My Pity Party: BYOB (Bring Your Own Breakdown)

With everything gathered in a singular place and alongside a non-judgemental and supportive Coach, we can get to work sorting through these things and putting them into perspective. We can really determine which of these things has some elements that we can control or delegate to someone else to help manage. 

From there, a little light the size of a standard staple can peek through and illuminate that, no, life doesn't suck, there's just a lot going on, and that's OK. 

In addition, the compound also helped me discover the humor in it all. Because really, who else has this lovely combination and concoction of miserable occurrences going on in their lives? I can also realize the connections and irony more clearly because, of course, the breakup would happen right before Mother Nature appears (If you know, you know)! 

Welcome to My Pity Party: BYOB (Bring Your Own Breakdown)

Finally, that bucket of all the things going wrong in my life helps me understand how I might help someone else who is going through something similar.

Is this the best approach for dealing with life's curve balls and suckiness? I'm still determining. But it adds some humor and clarity to my life at a time when I need those things the most while helping me to grow into the person I want to be.

So yeah, many things seem to be going wrong sometimes, but I'm grateful that I have everything I need and more to navigate them. And if you’re going through the same, you do too! Who knows, we may help someone else along the way.


  • Embrace the Chaos: Sometimes life feels like a series of unfortunate events. Recognize the humor and irony in your struggles.

  • Consolidate and Sort: Gather all your problems in one place and determine what you can control or delegate.

  • Find the Light: Even in the midst of chaos, find the small glimmers of positivity that can help you move forward.

  • Help Others: Use your experiences to empathize with and assist others facing similar challenges.

Practical Steps:

  • Make a List: Write down everything that's going wrong. It helps to see it all in one place.

  • Sort and Prioritize: Identify what you can control, what you can delegate, and what you need to let go.

  • Laugh About It: Find the humor in your situation. It’s a great coping mechanism.

  • Share Your Story: Talking about your struggles (maybe with a Coach, like I did!) can be therapeutic and can help others who are going through similar situations.

Life can be overwhelming, but you don't have to navigate it alone. As a certified life and engagement coach, I can help you find the light, embrace the chaos, and achieve your personal and professional goals.

Book a complimentary discovery session today, and let's explore how we can collaborate to create a path to success and resilience.

Let’s turn those FML moments into LOL moments together!

Welcome to My Pity Party: BYOB (Bring Your Own Breakdown)

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